Yesterday has gone forever/27.03.09

There are positive and negative ways that people behave when managing or coping with stress (Lazarus and Folkman, 1984, Roy, 1976).

POSITIVE ( ADAPTIVE ) STRESS RESPONSES

Problem solving. Idendtify the problem, plan a response, and actively work on it.

Using social support. Request and accept help from caring others.

Reframing. Redefine the situation to see positive as well as negative sides and how to use the situation to your advantage.

Wishful thinking. Thinking that ´´everything will be fine´´ to the exclusion of doing anything to make this happen.

NEGATIVE (MALADAPTIVE STRESS RESPONSES)

Avoidance. Choosing not to to deal with the situation.

Negative feelings may become chronic

Self-blame. Blaming self takes the focus off working toward resolution of the problem.

Feelings are about the self and not the problem.

Julie and Alice

I am proud of u sisters!

Abraham Maslow hierarchy of needs

1) Physiological: hunger, thirst, bodily comforts, fluids, body temperature, sex etc.;

2) Safety/security: out of danger; physical safety, psychological safety.

3) Belonginess and Love: affiliate with others, be accepted; and friendship, family, sexual intimancy

4) Esteem: to achieve, be competent, gain approval and recognition, confidence, respect of others and respect by others
5) Self actualization: is the desire to become everything that one is capable of becoming.

A friend in need is a friend indeed!

I love to have u King!

In order to make good friends you will need to display some of the following traits:

1. You will need to be friendly and genuinely interested in other people.
2. You will need to be open and vulnerable, willing to share your whole life with the other person.
3. You will need to have a good sense of humor and learn to laugh at yourself.
4. You will need to learn the lost art of conversation.
5. You will need to learn to be loyal when your friend is not present i.e. never gossip about the other person's shortcomings.
Friendship is a necessary part of life. We were never meant to live as islands or to be lone rangers. Learning how to make friends will lead you to a deep sense of fulfillment.

Miss independent!

In my entire life I´ll be always belonging to my lovely family!

Patu! back once again!